You can’t calm the storm

Adapted from an image posted by FelixMittermeier on Pixabay

“You can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.” ~Timber Hawkeye

When the storms of life hit and everything feels broken and in chaos, the only thing we want is for the storm to stop. Our immediate tendency is to throw all of our effort into trying to calm the storm, make it stop, and return our life to “normal.”

The problem is that we have no control over life’s storms. All of our efforts toward making the storms stop just leaves us feeling more powerless and exposed.

A better approach is to focus on what we do have control over: ourselves. When we spend our efforts focused on calming ourselves and our reactions the storms we are facing, we are better able to deal with the effects of the storm.

From a place of calm, we can better find or create shelter to protect us during the storm. We are more able seek out the support and resources we need for rebuilding after the storm is over.

The storm will pass whenever it is finished and no sooner. There’s nothing we can do about that.

The only thing we can control is how we deal with the storm. Focusing on that will ease the impact of the storm more than all our efforts to control the uncontrollable.


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