You are already worthy

Kintsugi living is all about healing from the broken places in our lives in ways that help us grow and become the people we want to be. It’s an inspiration to use those broken places as fuel for our own growth.

One of the challenges of this kind of focus, though, is that it’s easy to make healing into one more self-improvement project designed to help us prove our worth or that we are “good enough” or that we deserve love.

There’s a fine line in there between using kintsugi as a helpful, hopeful, inspirational image and turning it into a way to continue to beat ourselves up (however subtly) for not yet being worthy enough as we are, and it’s easy to trip over that fine line without realizing it when pain makes us forget that we are already worthy, already whole, and already enough.

The antidote is to keep coming back to the truth that even when places in your life feels broken and even when your heart feels broken and bruised, YOU are not broken.

Yes, you may be hurting (maybe even unbearably so). That still doesn’t mean that you are broken. Some place in your life has been battered and bruised, but YOU are still whole and worthy and enough. Pain, while horribly unpleasant, is not a sign that something that wrong with you. It’s just an indication that something unpleasant has happened to you.

Yes, you may feel like you are not meeting someone’s expectations (your own or someone else’s). This still doesn’t mean that you are broken. It means that the expectations weren’t appropriate for the person you are. Expecting an apple to an orange doesn’t make the apple wrong, bad, broken, or unworthy for being an apple. It’s nothing more than a ridiculous expectation.

You may even feel frustrated at the gap you see between the person you are in your daily actions and the person you want to become, but that still doesn’t mean that you are broken or unworthy or not enough. It’s actually a sign of how whole you are that you aspire to grow into a more mature version of yourself.

Healing is about dealing with the pain that the broken places in our lives brings our way, and growth is about our continued process of maturing into ever more evolved versions of ourselves. Neither one is about “fixing” ourselves, making ourselves worthy, proving that we are “good enough,” or becoming whole.

Let me say it again: You are already whole. You are already worthy. You are already enough.

Even when you are hurting. Even when life feels hard. Even when you see room for further growth. Even when someone else doesn’t recognize your worth.

You are still worthy. You are still whole. You are still enough.

Embracing those truths make it easier to use the image of kintsugi as the hopeful possibility it is rather than turning it into one more way to castigate yourself.

Do you believe that you are worthy? What would help you embrace this truth more fully?


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