thoughts – A Kintsugi Life

Eliminating the second arrows of suffering

Kenetha Kintsugi living March 6, 2024May 30, 2026change, habits, pain, stories, suffering, thoughts

Our thoughts about an unpleasant situation are what turns pain (first arrow) into suffering (second arrow). Learning our thinking habits allows us to change our habits to reduce future suffering.

Shifting our trauma-based beliefs

Kenetha Kintsugi living February 7, 2024May 30, 2026brokenness, kintsugi, perspective, stories, thoughts, trauma

The trauma of the broken places in our lives can create unhelpful (and often unconscious) beliefs that hold us back. Recognizing and shifting those beliefs takes conscious effort, but it is possible!

Secret agreements

Kenetha Personal growth May 3, 2023May 30, 2026belief, thoughts

What secret agreements do you have with yourself about how life works? They control you more than you realize, and it’s only by dragging them out into the light that you can work with them.

Finding peace in life’s storms

Kenetha Kintsugi living December 9, 2020May 30, 2026advent, emotions, meditation, mindfulness, peace, stories, thoughts

A meditation on the second week of Advent from the perspective of kintsugi living: Learning how to find peace in life’s storms is one of the gifts of kintsugi living as we discover how to peel back the clouds of emotion that obscure it.

Are you asking the right questions?

Kenetha Personal growth August 26, 2020May 30, 2026thoughts

Our minds are exceptionally good at seeking out answers to the questions we ask them, so choosing the right questions to ask in times of pain and brokenness is crucial to what we focus on and whether we find hope or hopelessness in the answers.

Living your wounds

Kenetha Brokenness August 19, 2020May 30, 2026emotions, grief, pain, thoughts, wounds

The only way to heal is to live your wounds all the way through the process—feeling the pain, crying the tears that need to flow, sitting with our wounds and our pain in compassionate silence.

What viruses are you spreading?

Kenetha Kintsugi living July 15, 2020May 30, 2026connection, emotions, relationships, thoughts

COVID-19 has reminded me of just how interconnected we all are and just how easily we spread things from one person to another mentally and emotionally as well as physically. I’m working on paying more attention to what I put out in the world as if every word and action was a virus of its own.

The danger of scorn

Kenetha Kintsugi living May 29, 2019May 30, 2026contempt, relationships, scorn, self, self-love, thoughts

Scorn and contempt are toxic to you, to your relationships, and to the world at large. Today’s post examines why this is the case and how important it is to eliminate this attitude in how we treat ourselves and those around us.

Spring cleaning for the soul

Kenetha Kintsugi living April 3, 2019May 30, 2026belief, emotions, identity, self-care, soul, stories, thoughts

A recent binge of spring cleaning around the house has opened up such space and possibility that it has sifted through to a similar spring cleaning in my inner world that’s bringing equally valuable spaciousness there. Here’s what this has looked like for me. What might a spring cleaning for your soul look like in your world?

Trusting myself more and my thoughts less

Kenetha Transformation February 20, 2019May 30, 2026ego, emotions, growth, healing, identity, intuition, observer, stories, thoughts, transformation, witness

statue of man thinking with head resting on hand

The most powerful and life-changing practice I’ve ever undertaken in supporting and empowering my healing, growth, and transformation has been learning to trust myself more and to trust my thoughts less. That sounds to most of us like a contradiction (who am I without my thoughts?), but it’s not. Discovering the you that is deeper than your thoughts is more rewarding than you can imagine!

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