It is not weak to feel pain or heartbreak. True strength is the ability to feel those emotions, deal with them constructively, and to heal and more forward with growth from life’s hard times.
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Kintsugi and grief: Two common misunderstandings
The art form of kintsugi can offer great hope to those who are grieving, but it is often misused in ways that can add to one’s grief instead of offering hope. Here are two common ways I hear that happen.
Continue readingFinding your deeper why to create change
Change is hard, but connecting a desired change to a place of deeper meaning in our lives makes it easier. Today’s post offers a key exercise to help find that connection as well as an example from my own life of both a helpful and not-so-helpful motivation from using this exercise. What is your deeper why?
Continue readingMaking meaning out of suffering
Most of us are desperate to find meaning in our suffering in the hope it will bring some alleviation of the depth of our suffering and pain, but that doesn’t work. Meaning is something that grows out of the healing process, not something that causes the healing to begin with.
Continue readingHere to be a blessing
Matching what we have to give with what the world around us needs first requires that we be attentive to the needs of those around us, and the things we are most likely to see are often the ones best matched with what we have to give.
Continue readingDo you know what brings you joy?
Small tastes of joy along the way can offer powerful sustenance and encouragement to a weary, grieving heart. And it’s so much easier to make those small sips happen when you know where joy comes from for you.
Continue readingChoosing your brokenness story
As humans, we crave stories that explain life to us, but we also have a responsibility to choose the stories that are most helpful and healthy for our healing. Unfortunately, that’s a choice most of us don’t even realize we can make!
Continue readingWhen fairy tales go bad
The habitual stories we are used to living out (our personal fairy tales) can have a much stronger impact on our lives than we imagine. Recognizing these stories and learning to create new options generates immense freedom.
Continue readingHatching from ego’s egg
As we grow, we emerge from the shell of versions of ourselves that have become too small. This new freedom is often scary, but it’s also joyful and expansive!
Continue readingComfort as a path to ruin
Too much comfort actually leads us not to happiness, but to discontent, because all growth involves discomfort. When we aren’t growing (which is what too much comfort actually means), we aren’t fully alive.
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