control – A Kintsugi Life

Choosing growth in the rubble

Kenetha Kintsugi living May 22, 2019May 30, 2026change, choice, control, kintsugi, kintsugi life, kintsukuroi, loss, resilience, resistance

Change is hard. Unwanted and unchosen change is harder still. Choosing growth in the face of the rubble that unwanted change brings restores a sense of agency and boosts our resilience to help us create a better future in the wake of loss.

The unhealed wound

Kenetha Kintsugi living March 27, 2019May 30, 2026awareness, control, enneagram, self-knowledge, wounds

Ladybower Reservoir with hole in reservoir draining water downward

Our unhealed wounds are like black holes inside us that distort our lives with their strong gravitational pull as they attempt to fill a hole in us that cannot be filled. Getting to know these wounds in us gives us greater conscious influence over their impact on our lives.

Breaking open the myths of control

Kenetha Personal growth October 25, 2017May 30, 2026change, control, lessons, self-improvement

There’s nothing quite like the world falling apart around me to highlight my false beliefs about control. More specifically, it shines a spotlight on just how inverted my myths about (and attempted practice of) control actually are. Learning to focus on the right set of reins makes a big difference in how I experience my life. Which reins are you trying to hold onto?