When the brokenness in our lives comes from our own choices, it’s seldom one big choice at fault. It’s the daily small choices that cause us to gradually lose our way.
Continue readingStaying on course toward our best selves
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Accepting the invitation
Change is unavoidable, but transformation must be chosen (often repeatedly and continually). Change is often our invitation to transformation. It’s up to us to embrace it.
Continue readingHow not to talk to yourself when you’re hurting
How we talk to ourselves matters more than we think, and that’s even more true when we are hurting and vulnerable. This one shift in how we deal with our inner voices can make a huge difference in times of pain.
Continue readingCreating your new normal
In the wake of the brokenness this pandemic has caused in our world’s “normal,” we have the chance to choose what we want our new normal to look like once the disruption eases. What kind of new normal will you create?
Continue readingChecking your self-sabotaging patterns
All of the patterns we engage in are things that once helped us in some way, but that doesn’t mean that they remain helpful here and now. It’s important to pay attention to these patterns as we become aware of them and assess whether they are still helpful.
Continue readingLessons from brokenness
Pain is one of life’s greatest teachers, but it can teach us lessons of fear or lessons of love. Which ones do you focus on? How do you tell the difference?
Continue readingThe slow process of transformation
Transformation seldom happens that easily (at least for me), especially when I’m dealing with deeply rooted patterns. Here’s what encourages me to keep working at it when I’m learning healthier patterns.
Continue readingDefeating the should monster
The battles we fight in the external world are never as challenging as those that we fight within ourselves. Most of those internal battles can be traced back to a single insidious source: the should monster.
Continue readingMaking fear your ally
Fear can be a helpful ally when we know how to treat it right. It’s when we give it full control or try to completely ignore it (and most of us do one or the other) that it becomes an obstacle. What is your usual relationship to fear?
Continue readingThe never-ending choice of transformation
Choosing transformation is hard—not just because it means choosing such an unknown path, but also because it is one we must choose again and again throughout the process.
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