There are always pieces of who we are and who we think ourselves to be that fall away throughout life. The practice of kintsugi is teaching me to deal more gracefully with the loss of the pieces of myself in a way that allows me to be open to whatever new pieces are emerging.
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Paying attention to what I’m actually doing can be a powerful agent for catalyzing change, so noticing how a certain thought pattern is keeping me stuck and powerless is making it possible to shift things in a big way.
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Our comfort zones in life come with expiration dates, and we ignore the inner warnings of those expiration dates at our own risk. Learning to listen to our intuitive knowledge that it’s time to make changes for continued growth can help us avoid (or at least mitigate) some of life’s brokenness. How well do you pay attention to your inner expiration date warnings?
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We all have default ways of responding to situations we face in life. These are so ingrained in us that we seldom even notice that we have choices. Life’s broken places bring out these default patterns even more strongly, but they are also optimal spaces for creating new options.
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We often find ourselves longing for healing and changes in life that we don’t seem to be able to put into practice. Today’s post takes a look at the two main barriers that keep us stuck and how facing these two (often unconscious) barriers head-on are the best way to get ourselves unstuck.
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Healing changes us enough that we don’t always fit back into the life we had before life’s brokenness happened. This feels like a penalty for having healed, but it’s actually a sign of our growth (painful as the cost may be). Learning to expect and deal well with this cost makes this inevitable time easier to navigate.
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Landscaping projects in my yard designed to make fall leaf season more manageable are teaching me a lot about dealing with the gap between the personal growth work I do and the measurable results of that work. Here’s what I’m learning and how it’s inspiring me.
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There’s nothing quite like the world falling apart around me to highlight my false beliefs about control. More specifically, it shines a spotlight on just how inverted my myths about (and attempted practice of) control actually are. Learning to focus on the right set of reins makes a big difference in how I experience my life. Which reins are you trying to hold onto?
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Change is hard, but connecting a desired change to a place of deeper meaning in our lives makes it easier. Today’s post offers a key exercise to help find that connection as well as an example from my own life of both a helpful and not-so-helpful motivation from using this exercise. What is your deeper why?
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Most of us are convinced that the best way to motivate ourselves to make positive change is to beat ourselves into it, but that actually doesn’t seem to work well for the vast majority of us no matter how often we try it. Here’s what I’ve found to be a much better way of approaching desired changes.
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