change – Page 2 – A Kintsugi Life

Making fear your ally

Kenetha Personal growth January 15, 2020May 30, 2026change, choice, fear, habits, risk, story

Scrabble tiles spelling out the word "fear"

Fear can be a helpful ally when we know how to treat it right. It’s when we give it full control or try to completely ignore it (and most of us do one or the other) that it becomes an obstacle. What is your usual relationship to fear?

Start with celebration for a better New Year’s plan

Kenetha Kintsugi living January 1, 2020May 30, 2026change, growth, new year, perspective, strengths

Starting from a place of celebration and building a plan for the year that focuses on including more of the things which bring us joy and using more of the skills and strengths we already possess creates a plan that we are much more likely to implement than one that starts with weakness and lack.

When transformation comes bubbling up through the cracks

Kenetha Transformation December 4, 2019May 30, 2026change, choice, emotions, healing, shadow, transformation, wounds

When the earthquakes of life leave our worlds in piles of rubble, they also tend to open up fissures that let our “stuff” (old wounds, unprocessed emotions, our shadow) come bubbling to the surface. Is this a disaster or an opportunity for transformation? That’s up to you!

Weathering the discomfort of change in healing

Kenetha Personal growth November 20, 2019May 30, 2026brokenness, change, growth, healing, patterns, relationships

puppy looking sad against a dar background

Part of the healing process often involves making changes in how we interact with others, and this inevitably feels uncomfortable. The key to sticking with healthy changes in these situations is knowing how to deal effectively with that discomfort so it doesn’t derail you.

Acceptance is an active process

Kenetha Kintsugi living September 11, 2019May 30, 2026acceptance, change, courage, wisdom

The Serenity Prayer differentiates between acceptance of things we can’t change and having courage to change what we can. Accepting what we can’t change is just as active a process as creating change.

The ripple effect of kintsugi living

Kenetha Kintsugi living July 31, 2019May 30, 2026change, choice, healing, influence, kintsugi, kintsukuroi

Kintsugi living doesn’t just change our own lives, it sends ripples of influence out to affect the lives of every one around us. What kind of ripples do you want to be creating in this world?

Choosing growth in the rubble

Kenetha Kintsugi living May 22, 2019May 30, 2026change, choice, control, kintsugi, kintsugi life, kintsukuroi, loss, resilience, resistance

Change is hard. Unwanted and unchosen change is harder still. Choosing growth in the face of the rubble that unwanted change brings restores a sense of agency and boosts our resilience to help us create a better future in the wake of loss.

Seeds of new life

Kenetha Transformation April 17, 2019May 30, 2026change, death, growth, kintsugi, kintsukuroi, resurrection, seeds, transformation

opened packet of seeds with seeds scattering out on dirt

Seeds that are planted die (as seeds) in order to create new life as plants emerge, but each seed can only reproduce the plant that it came from. The same is true for us. Here’s the hidden warning in using this metaphor for our lives.

What if there’s nothing wrong with you?

Kenetha Personal growth March 20, 2019May 30, 2026acceptance, belief, brokenness, change, self-love

woman holding flowers against swirling, magical backdrop

I’ve been waiting in vain for years for a fairy godmother or Hogwarts invitation to come prove that I am better than I think I am, but I’ve discovered that the only thing really “wrong” with me is that I think there’s something wrong with me.

What lies beneath

Kenetha Personal growth January 16, 2019May 30, 2026change, healing, transformation, wounds

baseball poking through surface of melting snow

A good snowfall can hide all of the world’s blemishes beneath a sparkling layer of white, but it’s only temporary. What lies beneath will emerge again in time. Isn’t that just like life? How often do you find yourself chasing newness and change in the hopes of covering over the imperfections in your life only to find the same old issues emerging again and again as the newness wears off?