Empathy is often seen as an unalloyed good in our culture, but I’m beginning to question whether leaning into compassion might be a healthier response for all involved.
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Shifting our trauma-based beliefs
The trauma of the broken places in our lives can create unhelpful (and often unconscious) beliefs that hold us back. Recognizing and shifting those beliefs takes conscious effort, but it is possible!
Continue readingIt’s ok to break
Most of us try to hide our feelings of brokenness when we are suffering and in pain. This is an encouragement that it is ok to break because it is only through the breaking that we make our way to healing.
Continue readingEvery day can be Independence Day
Letting painful experiences from our past define us keeps us shackled to them and limits our future, but every day can be our own personal Independence Day when we drop those self-imposed shackles and limits.
Continue readingCataclysm or slow decay?
Recognizing the difference between a cataclysm or slow decay offers a clear path forward into the approach that will best serve us in healing from our specific place of brokenness.
Continue readingWhen healing hurts
Sometimes the sharp edges of the broken places in our lives make the work of healing painful. It’s the same with the sharp edges of the stones I work with, and that image (and experience) helps me better deal with the times when healing hurts.
Continue readingWhat cracks expose
When we experience broken places in our lives that crack us open, those cracks expose our inner state. These windows into the soul show us where we need to grow.
Continue readingYou are already worthy
Kintsugi living is about using life’s broken places as fuel for our continued growth as we heal, but healing is not a self-improvement project designed to make us worthy. Today’s post is a reminder that you are already worthy, whole, and enough just as you are!
Continue readingOur strength is in our healing
It is not weak to feel pain or heartbreak. True strength is the ability to feel those emotions, deal with them constructively, and to heal and more forward with growth from life’s hard times.
Continue readingSharing our vulnerability
The more I am able to allow myself to let my vulnerabilities show, the more grace and compassion I am finding in this world and the more I attract people who can be similarly open about themselves. Exposing my vulnerabilities (with appropriate caution, of course) actually makes me less likely to be hurt.
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