Learning to take responsibility for ourselves and our lives is a key part of growing up, but there’s one area in which we often get this wrong. One gift of kintsugi gold is often learning how to correct this mistake, which can do wonders for increasing our own happiness and the health of our relationships. Learn more about taking the right responsibility to fix this common mistake in today’s post.
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Even when life feels like a disaster zone of total brokenness, there are still small beauties and sweet moments all around us, if we pay attention. Learning to seek out and treasure that sweetness through gratitude and mindful appreciation is a gift that provides unexpectedly large dividends in the midst of brokenness and continues to grace each moment with greater beauty and peace long afterward. Learn more in today’s post about this gift of kintsugi gold and how to apply it in your life.
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There is a kind of quiet (often overlooked and undervalued) courage that is required when facing times of brokenness and grief. That quiet courage is what gets us through those times and keeps us moving toward healing and new life. Intentionally practicing this kind of courage builds our ability to do this even more easily in the future for ourselves and as an influence on the world around us. Here’s what that kind of quiet courage looks like.
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Times of brokenness are an entry into a whole new landscape of heartache, grief, and anguish. Choosing to explore this new terrain we find ourselves in with curiosity of the heart brings both the gift of healing in the moment and an expansion of our ability to live fully into each moment even after our return to our “normal” world.
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When our world collapses, the cages we’ve built around ourselves of others’ expectations and rules are exposed to view, and the cage’s promise to keep us safe and loved is shown to be a lie. Dismantling that cage allows the winds of freedom to blow through our lives making space for new choices, both inner and outer, as we heal and rebuild.
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Our emotions are meant to be our servants, providing information about ourselves and our world, but they easily become tyrants with their intensity controlling our reactions instead of informing them. Breaking this tyranny and returning them to their rightful place as servants requires being able to stand in the center of the inferno of our emotional storms and simultaneously stay connected to the detached, curious inner observer that is able to learn from them. Learn more about this lesson and the gifts it has to give in this post.
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Greater compassion for others who are hurting is a natural outcome of having been hurt deeply ourselves, but that kind of compassion is easy. There’s a much harder kind of compassion that is developed only through times of great brokenness as we face the monsters in our own shadows that drive us in our deepest grief and fear. Learning this hardest kind of compassion offers so much healing for ourselves and helps diminish injury in the future as we shift our perception of others.
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As part of the series on the subtle gifts of kintsugi gold, this post explores the gift of discovering a whole new perspective on life’s problems and challenges. What had once seemed to mountains all around me now clearly look like molehills of little import after having experienced a real mountain. This shift in perspective has brought so much peace with it as I’ve let go of so much of my fight with reality. How has going through a time of brokenness shifted your perspective of life?
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As part of the series on the subtle gifts of kintsugi gold, this post explores my own journey toward discovering hidden strength in myself that I didn’t know I had as I worked through a period of intense brokenness. That discovery continues to pay rich dividends in my current life as it expands so many possibilities available to me. Have you ever discovered hidden strength in yourself when going through a difficult time?
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The experience of loss and brokenness is hard to miss. By contrast, the gifts of kintsugi gold tend to be so subtle that they can be easily overlooked and undervalued. Intentionally seeking those gifts and naming them as they appear can be a helpful way to nurture them and the healing process. This is the start of a new series of posts aimed at naming these subtle gifts of kintsugi gold to help you find your own treasure in life’s scars.
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