Kintsugi living blog — writing

Using pain as fuel

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Using pain as fuel

Image credit: ©2011 Ian Barbour, Flickr | CC-BY-SA   There are essentially three ways of dealing with pain. We can attempt to avoid it, we can get stuck in it, or we can move directly into it and through it. Our culture, however, values only the first of these approaches. Whenever we encounter pain, grief, or trauma in our lives, we fill encounter great pressure (both from others and from within to the degree that we have been influenced by cultural norms) to keep a stiff upper lip, move through it quickly, and get back to normal as soon as...

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7 gentle practices that promote healing

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

7 gentle practices that promote healing

© 2007 mrhayata, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio Living a kintsugi kind of life means actively working on healing the broken places in our lives in such a way that our healing does become gold to be treasured. Part of that healing process involves facing our pain head on and allowing it to flow through us, but few of us in our emotion-phobic culture have been taught how to do that. Instead, we are conditioned to keep the pain hidden and distract ourselves from dealing with it through work, shopping, eating, alcohol, drugs, busyness, TV, computer games, and a...

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When obsessing over others is avoidance

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When obsessing over others is avoidance
“When we find ourselves obsessing over what someone else is doing, it is probably because there is an action we are avoiding taking ourselves.” ~Julia Cameron

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The words that choke me

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Untitled by the shadowlands, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. Some things are incredibly hard to write about. The stream of words thicken like glue that's sat too long in the bottle and refuse to flow out my fingertips. They balk and resist and loop around in circles inside my chest to avoid having to come forth onto the page. I suspect we all have topics that trigger us, stories that we can't bring ourselves to tell, aspects of ourselves that we'd rather keep hidden away. When we encounter opportunities to bring those to light, we find our words...

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