Transformation seldom happens that easily (at least for me), especially when I'm dealing with deeply rooted patterns. Here's what encourages me to keep working at it when I'm learning healthier patterns.
When the earthquakes of life leave our worlds in piles of rubble, they also tend to open up fissures that let our "stuff" (old wounds, unprocessed emotions, our shadow) come bubbling to the surface. Is this a disaster or an opportunity for transformation? That's up to you!
In alchemy, base metals were not removed so that they could be replaced by gold. Rather, they became gold through transformation. The same thing is true for the broken places in our lives that become gold through the alchemy of kintsugi living.
Seeds that are planted die (as seeds) in order to create new life as plants emerge, but each seed can only reproduce the plant that it came from. The same is true for us. Here's the hidden warning in using this metaphor for our lives.