Kintsugi living blog — self-improvement

Keeping the windows of the soul clean

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Keeping the windows of the soul clean

© 2010 Pat David, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio There's a long, narrow window beside the front door of my house. Other than using it on rare occasion to see who is knocking at my door, I pay very little attention to it as I go about my days. Last weekend I happened to walk by it as the light was hitting it just right, and I noticed that it was filthy. It only took a couple of minutes to clean it well inside and out, but it made such a huge difference in how sharply I could see...

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Declaring a truce with myself

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Declaring a truce with myself

Fighting Topis by Stuart Barr, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. I have certain personality traits that make me a difficult person. These are things that people have been complaining about from my earliest memories, so it's not that I am unaware of them, and I even recognize how they make me difficult for other people to deal with. I've been actively fighting these particular traits and trying to change them for most of my life. That inner battle against these parts of myself has intensified through the years, but it's not making much difference. In fact, the harder...

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Turning gremlins into allies

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Gremlins by Inti, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. This is the time of year when my thoughts inevitably turn toward reviewing the last year and setting goals for the coming year. While those goals will shift and evolve over the course of the year depending on what comes my way, heading into the year with some goals and plans is good motivation to continue growing and stretching. I've also learned that this goal setting and planning activity is guaranteed to bring out my gremlins. Every. Single. Time. I'm sure you have them too—those little inner voices that tell...

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Knowing better, doing better

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

“When you know better you do better.” ~Maya Angelou I love this quote from Maya Angelou because it gives me space to allow myself grace for all those times that I did the best I could, I just didn't know better. There are a lot of those. Unfortunately, I can't always say that just knowing better helped me to do better. Just last weekend, I needed to use an extension cord for an outdoor project. I pulled the extension cord out of the box, and it looked like the picture above. I'd put it away (again) as a tangled mess....

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Hummingbird lessons

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Hummingbird lessons
Watching the hummingbirds at the feeder outside my window is teaching me about the fierceness that I need to develop to be able to stand my own ground in the midst of daily life without allowing myself to be pressured into abandoning myself in order to be "nice" to other people.

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