Kintsugi living blog — self-care

7 gentle practices that promote healing

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

7 gentle practices that promote healing

© 2007 mrhayata, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio Living a kintsugi kind of life means actively working on healing the broken places in our lives in such a way that our healing does become gold to be treasured. Part of that healing process involves facing our pain head on and allowing it to flow through us, but few of us in our emotion-phobic culture have been taught how to do that. Instead, we are conditioned to keep the pain hidden and distract ourselves from dealing with it through work, shopping, eating, alcohol, drugs, busyness, TV, computer games, and a...

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Rethinking self-care as thought-care

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Rethinking self-care as thought-care
I am much more productive and happy when I approach my work and my chores from a place self-talk that reflects self-love than when I do the exact same things with self-talk that is self-bullying.

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Choosing guilt

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Even though I am learning not to be a "nice" person, those old expectations that I will neglect my own needs in order to do for others run deep. And I am just as guilty of placing that expectation on myself as others are of placing it on me. Those of us who have been trained to put others' needs before our own are often faced with choices that feel like no-win situations. If we do what is expected of us and put others first when we don't have enough to give, we often wind up resentful and angry, even...

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A bill of boundary rights

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A bill of boundary rights

Bill of Rights by david__jones, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. I remember hearing many sermons about the evils of pride, of making sure we weren't proud, of the need to consider others before ourselves. And there are dangers in having too much pride—to the point that it blinds one to the needs and the feelings of the people around us. In that worldview, having boundaries was sinful. I don't remember ever hearing a sermon about the danger of not having enough pride in oneself or of the importance of looking out for our own needs, but these are...

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