Kintsugi living blog — perspective

Embracing groundlessness to avoid shattering

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Embracing groundlessness to avoid shattering

© 2010 janet galore, Flickr | CC-BY I've been rereading Pema Chödrön's When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times lately, and I've been particularly struck in this reading by her exploration of the ways in which we aggressively attempt to solidify our ego-selves when facing situations that cause us to feel that there is no solid ground under our feet. She claims that one of the key ways we attempt to create a sense of solidness in the face of the uncertainty of life is through aggressively stating and justifying our opinions. We make our opinions into absolute...

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The gift of cloudy days

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The gift of cloudy days

© 2007 SpeedProPhoto, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio There's something about the vivid blue of autumn's skies on sunny days that always takes my breath away.  That blue is so striking that it seems like something I should be able to touch and taste. It's one of my favorite things about autumn. I rejoice in every sunny day we get this time of year as I try to soak up as much of that vivid blue as I can to hold me through the rest of the year (especially the often cloudy and dark winter!). On the other hand,...

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Collapsing our stories to make space for healing

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Collapsing our stories to make space for healing

© 2015 Paul VanDerWerf, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio As humans, we are story-making creatures. We use stories to explain to ourselves and to others how the world works. They are our answers to the ubiquitous question of why. Why did this happen? Why does that person act that way? Why do I act the way I do? Why does this hurt? Why is the world the way it is? These stories make up our beliefs about our world and how the world operates, and they guide our reactions, our perceptions, and our decisions. Most of the time, though,...

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The observer as gold in ego's broken shell

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The observer as gold in ego's broken shell
The brokenness that shattered my life also shattered the shell of ego enough to help me get in touch with my inner observed, that curious but detached part of myself that runs deeper and truer than my ego ever will.

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Being wholly alive to ALL of life

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Being wholly alive to ALL of life

Anger! by Amy McTigue, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. "The most solid advice ... for a writer is this, I think: Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell, and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough." ~William Saroyan Although this quote is ostensibly  advice for writers, it is equally good advice for anyone. We...

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