Kintsugi living blog — meaning

Making meaning out of suffering

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Making meaning out of suffering

© 2011 exezippdf, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio Part of being human seems to be the need to find meaning in the things that happen to us in life. Nowhere is this more true than when it comes to those things which cause us suffering. Most of us are desperate to find meaning in our suffering in the hope it will bring some alleviation of the depth of our suffering and pain. But in my experience it's never actually worked that way. Meaning is something that has grown out of the healing process, not something that causes the healing...

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Here to be a blessing

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Here to be a blessing

© 2010 Ben Grey, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio I used to be convinced that there was a grand purpose for my life. I was sure that there was one vocation out there that was what I was meant to do. I wanted to be sure I got it right, so I very carefully explored, researched, and waited for that one grand purpose to be revealed to me. I waited and waited and waited some more, but the answer never appeared written in the clouds, never showed itself forth in a nimbus of glorious light, never was heard being...

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Do you know what brings you joy?

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Do you know what brings you joy?

© 2013 Oliver Schmidt, Flickr | CC-BY-ND | via Wylio As children, most of us had no problem knowing exactly what brought us joy, and we had no hesitation pursuing those things that we found joyful—often to the chagrin of our parents who were faced with cleaning up the resulting messes we created. As adults, we seldom have the freedom to engage with abandon in things that bring us joy due to our responsibilities, but even when we have the opportunity to do so, too many of us don't even know what would bring us joy anymore! I see this...

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The shadow side of meaning

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Blame by !anaughty!, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. Humans are meaning-making creatures. We want to know why things happen as they do. We want to know how to live better lives. We want to know how life works. Finding meaning in our lives is a necessary part of most of our journeys. It motivates us, it sustains us through difficult times, and it is an organizing principle in what often seems to be a chaotic world. We need meaning. But there is a shadow side to our hunt for meaning, too. What we really want most of the...

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