Kintsugi living blog — kintsukuroi

Using pain as fuel

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Using pain as fuel

Image credit: ©2011 Ian Barbour, Flickr | CC-BY-SA   There are essentially three ways of dealing with pain. We can attempt to avoid it, we can get stuck in it, or we can move directly into it and through it. Our culture, however, values only the first of these approaches. Whenever we encounter pain, grief, or trauma in our lives, we fill encounter great pressure (both from others and from within to the degree that we have been influenced by cultural norms) to keep a stiff upper lip, move through it quickly, and get back to normal as soon as...

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Releasing my pre-broken self

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Releasing my pre-broken self

© 2008 Rigel, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've been engaged in a massive clean out program the last few weeks in an attempt to combat my pack rat tendencies and reduce the amount of stuff I own. It's been a bit like an archaeological dig of my own life. I can look through the stuff I have to see the time periods I've lived through—all of the careers, interests, hobbies, and style preferences I've lived through at various stages. It's walk down memory lane of all of the past selves I've been at different times. Some of that...

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The role of brokenness in transformation

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The role of brokenness in transformation

© 2015 Heiner Adams, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've made many, many changes in my life over the years. I've changed jobs, changed whole career fields, moved across the country, married, divorced, and explored dozens of completely different interests and styles. From the outside looking in, it might easily appear that I'm not only a pro at handling change but that I even actively embrace it and seek it out. On one level, I suppose that's true. But more often than not, my many changes were frantic efforts to distract myself from facing even bigger transformation that was...

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The uniqueness of brokenness and repair

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The uniqueness of brokenness and repair

© 2012 Dennis Skley, Flickr | CC-BY-ND | via Wylio My kintsugi artwork requires that I spend a lot of time breaking things and repairing broken things, so I spend a lot of time working on ways to break things better and to fix them better. Out of all of those efforts, I've gradually expanded my techniques for doing both. Out of all of that, the number one thing I've learned about these two processes is that the actual breaking and repair is unique for every single item I work with. Each breaking and repair is unique Some of those...

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Three approaches to life's broken places

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Three approaches to life's broken places

© 2015 Rodrigo Paredes, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio There are three ways to approach the inevitable broken places in our lives when they occur. Two of these ways keep us stuck in the brokenness, but those two approaches are the ones we choose most often. The third, less chosen way is the only one of the three that makes space for healing. One of the beauties of the kintsugi metaphor for living is that it offers encouragement for choosing this third approach that works. Approach 1: Denying the brokenness exists The first approach that is commonly used is...

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