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Using pain as fuel

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Using pain as fuel

Image credit: ©2011 Ian Barbour, Flickr | CC-BY-SA   There are essentially three ways of dealing with pain. We can attempt to avoid it, we can get stuck in it, or we can move directly into it and through it. Our culture, however, values only the first of these approaches. Whenever we encounter pain, grief, or trauma in our lives, we fill encounter great pressure (both from others and from within to the degree that we have been influenced by cultural norms) to keep a stiff upper lip, move through it quickly, and get back to normal as soon as...

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The end of the world is a new beginning

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The end of the world is a new beginning

© 2014 U.S. Department of Agriculture, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio When I'm in the middle of a time when life seems to be crashing down around my ears, it often feels like the end of the world. And it is often the end of my world as I have known it so far. It's easy for my thoughts to get stuck in an unending loop that focuses only on the endings. My life (or world) is ending. Everything is crashing and burning. My whole life is falling apart. And to some degree, every single one of those thoughts...

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Releasing my pre-broken self

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Releasing my pre-broken self

© 2008 Rigel, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've been engaged in a massive clean out program the last few weeks in an attempt to combat my pack rat tendencies and reduce the amount of stuff I own. It's been a bit like an archaeological dig of my own life. I can look through the stuff I have to see the time periods I've lived through—all of the careers, interests, hobbies, and style preferences I've lived through at various stages. It's walk down memory lane of all of the past selves I've been at different times. Some of that...

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Celebrating love and ashes

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Celebrating love and ashes
Recognizing our joint sharing in the ashes of life spurs our hearts toward love of ourselves and others as we see through eyes of compassion.

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The role of brokenness in transformation

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The role of brokenness in transformation

© 2015 Heiner Adams, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've made many, many changes in my life over the years. I've changed jobs, changed whole career fields, moved across the country, married, divorced, and explored dozens of completely different interests and styles. From the outside looking in, it might easily appear that I'm not only a pro at handling change but that I even actively embrace it and seek it out. On one level, I suppose that's true. But more often than not, my many changes were frantic efforts to distract myself from facing even bigger transformation that was...

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