Kintsugi living blog — identity

You are not who you think you are

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You are not who you think you are

© 2013 Ley, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio This phrase has been bouncing around inside my head for a couple of weeks now: you are not who you think you are. This may sum up one of the most profound things I learned during my experience of having my world fall apart. It is also among the profoundly beneficial things I learned. It is a big part of my gold. You see, very often the things that cause the greatest brokenness in our lives do so not only because of the grief of the actual loss or trauma we...

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The role of brokenness in transformation

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The role of brokenness in transformation

© 2015 Heiner Adams, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've made many, many changes in my life over the years. I've changed jobs, changed whole career fields, moved across the country, married, divorced, and explored dozens of completely different interests and styles. From the outside looking in, it might easily appear that I'm not only a pro at handling change but that I even actively embrace it and seek it out. On one level, I suppose that's true. But more often than not, my many changes were frantic efforts to distract myself from facing even bigger transformation that was...

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Rejecting false brokenness

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Rejecting false brokenness

© 2012 DonkeyHotey, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio There is an incredible amount of brokenness in our world. Broken hearts and broken lives abound all around us. And yet, we tend to heap a great deal of false brokenness onto that overwhelming pile, finding ourselves (and others) to be "broken" in places where no brokenness exists. Invariably these forms of false brokenness stem from comparing ourselves to others or to cultural standards of who we "should" be. When we perceive ourselves to be falling short, we conclude that we must be inherently broken in some way. This is false...

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Death as the first stage of transformation

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Death as the first stage of transformation
Transformation always starts with the death of something, some part of who we were. Accepting and moving through this death is necessary to make room for the person we are becoming.

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Stages of transformation

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Stages of transformation
The actual process of transformation is messy, painful, and confusing, especially when we don't know what to expect. Knowing the natural stages of transformation makes it easier to negotiate the process.

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