An important part of the healing process is letting go of our identification with what has happened to us and the broken places it created even as we hold tightly to the kintsugi gold we've discovered during our healing.
The work we do toward healing our wounds does as much (or more) for everyone around us as it does for ourselves. We have the choice to continue to transmit our suffering or to do the hard work of transforming that suffering so we can transmit healing and compassion.
In the movement toward any kind of goal (including healing), there inevitably comes a place where we feel completely stuck. This is not the end of the road! It's actually a necessary part of the journey and accepting it as such makes it easier to deal with effectively.