Kintsugi living blog — growth

Using pain as fuel

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Using pain as fuel

Image credit: ©2011 Ian Barbour, Flickr | CC-BY-SA   There are essentially three ways of dealing with pain. We can attempt to avoid it, we can get stuck in it, or we can move directly into it and through it. Our culture, however, values only the first of these approaches. Whenever we encounter pain, grief, or trauma in our lives, we fill encounter great pressure (both from others and from within to the degree that we have been influenced by cultural norms) to keep a stiff upper lip, move through it quickly, and get back to normal as soon as...

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Keeping the windows of the soul clean

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Keeping the windows of the soul clean

© 2010 Pat David, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio There's a long, narrow window beside the front door of my house. Other than using it on rare occasion to see who is knocking at my door, I pay very little attention to it as I go about my days. Last weekend I happened to walk by it as the light was hitting it just right, and I noticed that it was filthy. It only took a couple of minutes to clean it well inside and out, but it made such a huge difference in how sharply I could see...

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The role of brokenness in transformation

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The role of brokenness in transformation

© 2015 Heiner Adams, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio I've made many, many changes in my life over the years. I've changed jobs, changed whole career fields, moved across the country, married, divorced, and explored dozens of completely different interests and styles. From the outside looking in, it might easily appear that I'm not only a pro at handling change but that I even actively embrace it and seek it out. On one level, I suppose that's true. But more often than not, my many changes were frantic efforts to distract myself from facing even bigger transformation that was...

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Sprouting: Why we resist transformation

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Sprouting: Why we resist transformation

Rocket shoots by Marion Schreiber, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. The last few years have been a time of intense transformation for me, and I've been paying some attention lately to some of the ways this period has changed me and the ways that I approach and interact with life. There are, of course, many ways in which I am the same person I've always been, with all of the same faults and quirks, but there are other ways in which I am profoundly different from the person I once was. Most of these changes are helpful ones...

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Turning gremlins into allies

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Gremlins by Inti, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. This is the time of year when my thoughts inevitably turn toward reviewing the last year and setting goals for the coming year. While those goals will shift and evolve over the course of the year depending on what comes my way, heading into the year with some goals and plans is good motivation to continue growing and stretching. I've also learned that this goal setting and planning activity is guaranteed to bring out my gremlins. Every. Single. Time. I'm sure you have them too—those little inner voices that tell...

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