Kintsugi living blog — emotions

7 gentle practices that promote healing

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

7 gentle practices that promote healing

© 2007 mrhayata, Flickr | CC-BY-SA | via Wylio Living a kintsugi kind of life means actively working on healing the broken places in our lives in such a way that our healing does become gold to be treasured. Part of that healing process involves facing our pain head on and allowing it to flow through us, but few of us in our emotion-phobic culture have been taught how to do that. Instead, we are conditioned to keep the pain hidden and distract ourselves from dealing with it through work, shopping, eating, alcohol, drugs, busyness, TV, computer games, and a...

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The end of the world is a new beginning

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

The end of the world is a new beginning

© 2014 U.S. Department of Agriculture, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio When I'm in the middle of a time when life seems to be crashing down around my ears, it often feels like the end of the world. And it is often the end of my world as I have known it so far. It's easy for my thoughts to get stuck in an unending loop that focuses only on the endings. My life (or world) is ending. Everything is crashing and burning. My whole life is falling apart. And to some degree, every single one of those thoughts...

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Accessing the body's wisdom in decision making

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Accessing the body's wisdom in decision making

I struggle with making decisions. The bigger the decision, the bigger the struggle, but even small decisions are challenging. This is not unusual for my personality type (I'm an INFJ). My ability to see situations from many different perspectives means that I am often able to make compelling arguments for every possibility under consideration such that my mind gets bogged down in over-analysis as I try to evaluate the many equally compelling options. Likewise, my strong empathic abilities mean that I often feel other people's emotions even more strongly than my own. When making a decision, I'm often so aware...

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What can you sit with?

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What can you sit with?

© 2011 Nickolai Kashirin, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio Can you sit with pain—your own or another's? How long can you just sit with it and hold space for it to be seen? Are you able to sit with it at all before rushing to numb it, stuff it, explain it away, or turn it into anger (which feels so much less vulnerable)? Can you look the pain in the eye and just sit with it, holding space with compassion for it to be felt fully so it can pass? Can you sit with the twisting ache of embarrassment,...

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Being wholly alive to ALL of life

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Being wholly alive to ALL of life

Anger! by Amy McTigue, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. "The most solid advice ... for a writer is this, I think: Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell, and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough." ~William Saroyan Although this quote is ostensibly  advice for writers, it is equally good advice for anyone. We...

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