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Do you know what brings you joy?

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Do you know what brings you joy?

© 2013 Oliver Schmidt, Flickr | CC-BY-ND | via Wylio As children, most of us had no problem knowing exactly what brought us joy, and we had no hesitation pursuing those things that we found joyful—often to the chagrin of our parents who were faced with cleaning up the resulting messes we created. As adults, we seldom have the freedom to engage with abandon in things that bring us joy due to our responsibilities, but even when we have the opportunity to do so, too many of us don't even know what would bring us joy anymore! I see this...

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Accessing the body's wisdom in decision making

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Accessing the body's wisdom in decision making

I struggle with making decisions. The bigger the decision, the bigger the struggle, but even small decisions are challenging. This is not unusual for my personality type (I'm an INFJ). My ability to see situations from many different perspectives means that I am often able to make compelling arguments for every possibility under consideration such that my mind gets bogged down in over-analysis as I try to evaluate the many equally compelling options. Likewise, my strong empathic abilities mean that I often feel other people's emotions even more strongly than my own. When making a decision, I'm often so aware...

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Choosing your perspective

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Choosing your perspective

  Elephant by Ian Barbour, on Flickr. Used via Creative Commons licensing. There is an often told story of a group of blind men who encounter an elephant for the first time. Each one of them approaches the elephant from a different place and seeks to learn about this new creature by touching the part of the animal he encounters. The man who has grabbed of the tail claims that this animal is like a rope. The one who has ahold of a leg claims that it is like a big column. The one grasping the ear claims that it...

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Choosing guilt

Posted by Kenetha Stanton on

Even though I am learning not to be a "nice" person, those old expectations that I will neglect my own needs in order to do for others run deep. And I am just as guilty of placing that expectation on myself as others are of placing it on me. Those of us who have been trained to put others' needs before our own are often faced with choices that feel like no-win situations. If we do what is expected of us and put others first when we don't have enough to give, we often wind up resentful and angry, even...

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