As a culture, we idolize those who don’t seem to need help from anyone else, but it’s part of the social nature of humans to need help from others. This is especially true when we are facing grief and loss. Rather than avoiding the need for help, we are better served by learning the skills of asking for help well.
When our lives have been shattered, holding onto a metaphor or image for living through such times can provide hope and a framework for us as we rebuild from the rubble. However, these metaphors are only helpful when we use them the right way. Learn more about making good use of metaphors for living in today’s post from A Kintsugi Life.
When something bad happens to us, it’s so easy to get stuck in trying to assign blame. And yet, that focus on blame keeps us stuck in the mess. The best way to get unstuck is abandoning blame and focusing on future choices!
We often find ourselves longing for healing and changes in life that we don’t seem to be able to put into practice. Today’s post takes a look at the two main barriers that keep us stuck and how facing these two (often unconscious) barriers head-on are the best way to get ourselves unstuck.
The juxtaposition this year of Valentine’s Day (with its celebration of love) and Ash Wednesday (with its reminder that we all die) is a powerful reminder of how inextricably linked love and loss truly are. Learning to keep our hearts open to loving wholeheartedly even in the face of loss is one of kintsugi living’s greatest gifts.
Life is full of pairs of truths that are seemingly opposites, but that are actually more true when held together than either half of the pair is on its own. Learning to hold the tension of both/and in these pairs of truths allows for a more balanced journey toward wholeness and healing.
Healing changes us enough that we don’t always fit back into the life we had before life’s brokenness happened. This feels like a penalty for having healed, but it’s actually a sign of our growth (painful as the cost may be). Learning to expect and deal well with this cost makes this inevitable time easier to navigate.
The stones I work with remind me daily just how uniquely beautiful each of us already is. Healing adds more beauty, but you are already beautiful, even in the broken places. Re-discovering and embracing that truth can bring healing in itself.
Part of living a kintsugi life is a commitment to using what happens to us as fuel for our ongoing growth, but it’s easy to let that commitment slide during the overwhelm of the intensity of life’s broken places or the complacency of the every day in between those broken places. This gentle cycle of alternating between planting and nurturing new things and releasing the old ones helps keep growth on track through both seasons of life.
A new personal practice of noticing one moment of joy each day is radically changing my perception of how much joy is available to me at any given moment. I’ve been seeking joy and finding it everywhere! And what a revolutionary discovery that is.